"You're going to see a Life Coach?" My good friend and colleague remarked with hesitation in her voice. "Be careful Abby, its always such a risk when you find these people online, you never know who or what you will get."
I find it amazing how much you can focus and concentrate so intensely on one thing only. Everything else can be blocked out no matter how much of a distraction it may normally be. I had blocked out the excitement of Queensland, the sun shining at 28 degrees; and that a crowd had lined the fence and filled two grandstands to watch us. To put all those distractions aside and concentrate was something that at 17 years old, I had trained myself to do. To otherwise be absorbed up into this exciting atmosphere was a distraction that many of my opponents succumb to.
For the first time in my life, I remember feeling so utterly empowered, I did not desire a man or a romantic relationship to feel loved. This had come after a string of interesting interactions with men during my time in Canada. If I remember this time in my life, I'd also started to turn inwards. To start looking for the answers their, to start creating the things I wanted. After all that's what everyone was telling me. Create a life you love for yourself, focus on yourself and the right people will show up.
Social media creates a warped perception of reality. Everyone chooses what they want to put out into the world. If we are not careful we easily fall into the comparison trap by seeing what someone chooses to post as their real life. If we engage in this activity too often we start to turn our focus outwards on the others and not our self.